Happy AND Rich!
Published: Mon, 05/20/13
This is about to become a blog post at
NO MORE HOLDING BACK, but I had to share
it with those of you who are on my email list.
I love you guys!
I put that question out as a Facebook status yesterday.
The whole thing looked like this...
Q.: Do you want to be happy, or rich?
A.: Yes.
Had to do it. Only because another friend put out the same
question a few minutes earlier. Only he made it a real scenario....
If
you had to choose between romantic love with no possibility
of
financial wealth or financial wealth with no possibility of
romantic
love which one would you choose? And can you guess
which one I would
choose?
That's a direct quote. I won't name him, and if he sees
this...
please accept my apologies. He's a great guy, and it's not my
intention to pick on him.
But Jeez Louise! Why would you even introduce the question?
It's scarcity thinking at its worst.
Anyway,
I put my status out there (after I responded to his with
a bunch of the
same thoughts I'm writing here). I put it out as
simply as I could,
because once you get too long or start sounding
pompous, people tune
out.
Most got it. A few actually chose one or the other, even after
seeing the "answer" I included.
It just goes to show how pervasive and bone-ass wrong the
whole happy or rich thing turns out to be.
So apologies if you already get it, but enough don't so that I'm
gonna go through it again.
Here
goes...the process of Receiving is the same for anything.
You were put
on this earth not to suffer, or to choose one good
thing or another.
You were put here to see how much you can take in,
how much you can expand.
And yes...you were put here to love and to serve others.
Another one of those things that people think are either/or choices.
Giving
and receiving are always in perfect balance. For
everything that is
given, an equal amount has to be received.
There's no other way.
And
the whole idea of sacrificing happiness in order to be
rich is a
thought form. Not a reality...not unless you choose
to make it yours.
Where
I grew up, people thought of "rich" as getting up at 4:00 am
to jump on
the train into New York City, working a full day, coming
home around
7:00 or 7:30 pm, and not having any time for yourself
or your family.
But at least you had money.
OR...not jumping on that train, doing
something else that didn't pay
well, but at least you had more time for
other things.
You were "happy."
And of course that whole
"either-or" shuts down an unlimited
number of possibilities to achieve
both. To live in a way that makes
you feel truly alive.
And the
whole self-denial = good person thing comes into play as well.
"I'm
depriving myself money and opportunity, so I must be a good person."
No...you're
depriving yourself abundance, and your view of the
world gets narrow.
And you suffer from the arrogance of thinking your self-deprivation
makes you somehow more spiritually superior.
I don't think there's anything that victimizes us more than our own
"either-or" thinking.
It's all about changing the quality of the questions we ask ourselves.
Don't be a dope and ask Would You Rather Be Happy Or Rich?
Don't ask yourself that. Don't ask other people that.
Try this on for size...
"How Can I Be Happy And Rich?"
And if you want to go wild, try these two...
"How Can I Serve Others And Become Happy And Rich In The Process?"
and...
"What Are The Old Thoughts, Feelings And Behaviors I'm Still Holding
Onto That, If I Let Them Go I Could Be Both Happy And Rich?"
Now we're talking!
Much Love,
Larry
P.S. The best book I've ever read on the topic of freeing yourself from
self-limiting beliefs and becoming the person who is rich and happy
is HOW TO RECEIVE. Yes, I wrote it. It's how I escaped my own
prison of scarcity thinking and poor self-image. I'd love for it do
the same for you.
CLICK HERE if you'd like to check out the ebook or audio
version of HOW TO RECEIVE...or even both...since there are
no limits other than the ones we give ourselves.